#BlogElul 18: Igniting the Spark of Love

Cross-posted at the Rabbis Without Borders blog at myjewishlearning.com

Last year, Jewish musician and Spiritual Leader of Temple Shir Shalom, Oviedo, FL, Beth Schafer wrote a book called 'Seven Sparks.'  Taking the 10 commandments as her inspiration, she re-cast them as seven sparks that can truly guide us toward what she has labeled, 'Positive Jewish Living.' The origins of both the book and the larger 'Positive Jewish Living' project was a belief that Beth held that Judaism was chock full of wisdom that we can truly live by, but our Jewish tradition can sometimes make it challenging to find your way into the complex, rabbinic texts, commentaries and interpretations of Torah in which this wisdom is found.

The first of the 10 commandments is more of a statement: 'I am the Eternal Your God, who led you out of Egypt.'  From this, Beth extracts the first of her Seven Sparks: 'I am free to love and be loved.'  She asks why God needs to make such a statement of introduction.  Why does God need to introduce God-self?  Perhaps because our people, newly freed from Egypt, have been distanced and need to be reintroduced.  God frees us from slavery in order to reestablish a loving relationship (our covenant).  Restoring love helps to bring healing to our broken world (tikkun olam).  Our time of wandering in the wilderness was a time in which we were re-taught and re-membered how to love.  We also learn how to receive love.  'It's hard to feel that you are loved, if you've spent all of your energy as a slave to something unhealthy.  It's hard to feel worthy when you are ensnared by self-doubt or self-criticism.  When someone shares love with you, you need to know in your heart that you deserve it." (Schafer, 2011).

At the end of each chapter, Beth includes a section called 'Ignite!'  How do we ignite the spark of love in our day-to-day lives?  These are her suggestions.  How appropriate they are as a source of contemplation and inspiration as we prepare ourselves spiritually for a New Year:

For yourself:

• I love myself.
• I have immense potential to grow.
• I appreciate my quirks as well as my gifts.
• I am proud of both big and small accomplishments.

For your family:

• I express love generously and often.
• I approach disagreements from a loving perspective.
• I give without expecting anything in return.

At work:

• I extend courtesy and respect to both superiors and subordinates as part of my work.
• I extend amazing service to clients or customers as one of my many goals.
• I act naturally and honestly to promote a great environment.

At your Congregation:

• We welcome all who visit the congregation from the parking lot, to the phone, in meetings, services, and all written correspondence.
• We respond with immediate compassion and caring to those in need.
• We recognize special events such as birthdays, anniversaries, recovery from illness and special lifecycle moments as a community.