The following is cross-posted from Dr. Lisa Grant's blog, 'Israel Stories'. Lisa is Professor of Education at Hebrew Union College and is currently on sabbatical in Israel. She is a member of our congregation. In her blog she shares reflections on some of her experiences. In this, her latest posting, Lisa reflects on the experience of using public transportation in Israel, and brings attention to the gender-segregated public bus routes that run through ultra-Orthodox neighborhoods that have literally put women at the back of the bus. The Israel Religious Action Center and other Israeli human rights organizations are fighting this very troubling turn to religious extremism in the public sphere in Israel.
One of the simple pleasures of being on sabbatical in Jerusalem is that my main mode of transportation is my feet. I also take the bus a lot, especially since the trip to school is uphill from my apartment and I’m usually carrying books and my computer. When I stay in town, my circuit is pretty small, probably not much more than one and a half square miles or so. In that space, I can find all of my local friends, school, shuls, theatres and other cultural venues, the gym (of course!) and any shopping I want or need to do. For someone who spends an awful lot of time commuting back and forth to New York City during my “normal” life, this is a lovely respite that adds lots of extra hours to my week for other pursuits.
There are times, of course, when this narrow orbit feels a bit constrained and then I head to Tel Aviv, usually by sherut, a 10-passenger shared taxi that goes from downtown Jerusalem to the central bus station in Tel Aviv which makes the Port Authority bus station in New York look like a luxury spa. From there, I then take another interesting conveyance, a shared mini-bus that drops you off anywhere you’d like along a specified route.
Occasionally, I get rides from friends who take me home after an evening visit, or even if they see me standing at a bus stop. It’s those rides that make me think about how different it is seeing Jerusalem and the rest of Israel from inside a private car as compared to from one or another mode of public transportation.
The buses and shared taxis are windows into the rich and complex social fabric of this not altogether Jewish state. On any given bus trip, you are likely to see a wide range of skin colors and hear a polyglot of languages including Hebrew, Arabic, English, Russian, French, Spanish, German, Portuguese and who knows what else. The passengers are schoolchildren, the elderly, commuters, tourists, soldiers, foreign workers, certainly rabbis and even a few priests. It’s one of the few places where a Jew might sit next to an Arab, not that they’d actually speak to one another.
Now, if I really lived here and wasn’t just a part-time sojourner, I know I’d have a car and that would change a lot. I got a taste of that this past weekend when I rented a car and was able to visit four different friends who live in suburbs of Tel Aviv and Netanya and in the lower Galilee. It felt great to be in a peppy little car where I could set my route and schedule, going wherever and whenever I wanted. But, it also made me realize that being in a private car creates a buffer to the outside world. The only link is the radio that gives regular traffic bulletins and news on the hour that reports the usual murder and mayhem but of quite a different ilk from what you’d hear on a typical American FM station – rockets fired from Gaza to a field outside of Ashkelon, IDF soldiers killing two Palestinian teenagers in Nablus who attacked them with a pitchfork, a Supreme court ruling overturning a Jewish town’s attempt to block a Bedouin family from moving in. But all of this is just background noise when you are zipping along the super highway and mainly concerned that the drivers around you won’t do anything crazy or stupid.
The car radio is a disembodied voice; in contrast, the bus is a live performance. Phone etiquette is pretty much non-existent and at times, it seems as if everyone is talking on the phone. If they aren’t talking, they’re eating, and if they aren’t eating, they might be davening tehilim (psalms) or studying a daf gemara (page of Talmud).
Private transportation is personal and liberating. It’s also protected. It’s up to you where to go and when to stop. Public transportation demands more direct engagement with the world. You have to accommodate more to the route & schedule. Of course you can plug into your IPod and tune out but if you pay attention, you see things you might otherwise ignore, the throngs who converge at the central bus station, and constant reminders of the persistence of poverty among Israel’s underclass – Ethiopians, Arabs, foreign workers, African refugees, and many many more.
Public transportation is also supposed to be fully and equally accessible to all members of society and that what I normally see when I climb onto a bus or sherut. But, sadly, even this basic right is at risk here. Last Saturday night I went to a demonstration with an estimated 2000 other people to protest the increasing number of gender segregated bus lines. The impetus for this comes from the Ultra-Orthodox community whose male members find it objectionable to have any kind of social contact with women so they have been relegated to the back of the bus, literally and truly. There are currently between 58 and 63 such gender-segregated inner and intra-city routes. In some cases, the only option for travelers is to sit in a gender segregated section regardless of who their travel companions might be. Despite condemnation by the Supreme Court , the Transportation minister and the quasi- public bus company continue the practice.
Though the abuse that Women at the Wall receive on a monthly basis from Ultra-Orthodox men when they gather to pray on Rosh Chodesh is getting a lot more press (at least in blogs and Facebook), these segregated bus lines are a far more insidious erosion of democratic values and respect for human rights that effect people daily not just for an hour or once a month. The demonstration was a hopeful sign that people are waking up to the reality that segregated bus lines are not just an issue for those who can’t afford a car. The gathering was a wonderful mix of Orthodox, Secular, Conservative, and Reform Jerusalemites. It was organized by a broad-based coalition of human rights organizations including a new forum of young adults who are active in building bridges across different social and religious sectors and working together to make Jerusalem a more tolerant and pluralistic city.
There were all kinds of signs and placards at the demonstration and the requisite number of speeches from activists and politicians. Perhaps the most compelling sign was a small, hand-made one that said something like “Segregated bus lines is an issue for the entire country, not just Jerusalem.” Indeed, even for those who never step up onto a bus, this issue gets to the bedrock of what it means to live in a civil society where everyone has equal rights. As such, it seems that it's high time for everyone to get out from behind the protection of their private cars and join the cacophony of the daily show of life on the public routes and buses of Israel.
Showing posts with label Women of the Wall. Show all posts
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Monday, March 22, 2010
Tuesday, March 16, 2010
Women who inspire: in honor of Rosh Hodesh Nisan
I grew up in a modern Orthodox synagogue in NW London. The Jewish world that I was exposed to there was not one that I could continue to live in. While I made my spiritual home in the progressive Jewish community, I am a firm believer in a pluralist Jewish community where a diversity of paths are followed. Even while recognizing that we all place some boundaries around our concepts of Judaism, in most cases there is little to be gained when one path seeks to infringe on the religious expressions of another, or seeks to deny their validity within Klal Yisrael (the community of the Jewish people).
As I was re-entering Jewish life as a young adult, within the context of a progressive Jewish community, I did spend some time with Jewish women who remained affiliated with modern Orthodox communities who were intent on making change happen from within - seeking to have monthly women-only prayer services where women would be able to read from Torah, seeking an answer to the problem of agunot (women denied a religious divorce from their husbands which prevents them from remarrying), and seeking opportunities for serious Jewish study for women. I admired their patience and determination, even as I was challenging the halachic foundations upon which limits were imposed on their ability to make change.
Today is Rosh Hodesh Nisan and we are less than two weeks away from Pesach - our festival of liberation and freedom. The Exodus story begins with brave women who worked within the system to transform it - Yocheved, mother of Moses, and his sister, Miriam, and Shifrah and Puah, the midwives who disobeyed Pharaoh's command to kill all the Jewish baby boys. In their honor and memory, I share two youtube videos below that highlight the wisdom, determination, and bravery of women who today are helping to transform modern Orthodox Judaism from within.
First, a follow-up on the series of blogs we posted in December, in solidarity with Women of the Wall. Over 100 women and 50 men were at their Rosh Hodesh morning service at the Western Wall this morning. More and more Israelis are joining them each month. This month they sang, and even danced in the women's section before, as is necessary under the current Israeli Supreme Court ruling, they moved on to Robinson's Arch for their Torah service. Ultra-Orthodox men continue to shout abuse from the men's side of the mechitza, and this time chairs were thrown, as evidenced in this clip. Thankfully, no-one was hurt, and police did intervene to remove the men responsible for the violence.
Second, Sara Hurwitz speaks at the Jewish Orthodox Feminist Alliance Conference (JOFA) in New York City. Sara has been the focus of much ire in the Orthodox community, along with Rabbi Avi Weiss of Yeshivat Chovevei Torah and the Hebrew Institute of Riverdale, NY, when he gave her the title 'Rabba' to replace the previous title, 'Maharat', which had been an indication of Sara's completion of the same course of study undertaken by Rabbis, and her position as a member of the clergy team at the Hebrew Institute. Due to an inordinate amount of pressure and protest from some Orthodox bodies, the 'Rabba' title has been retracted. But Sara Hurwitz remains on the clergy team and, as you will see from this edited video of her presentation at the conference, she continues to inspire and present herself with great dignity, and continued optimism for the future of women's learning and leadership within the Orthodox Jewish community.
Yasher Kochech! - May you have strength!
Rabbi Rachel Gurevitz
As I was re-entering Jewish life as a young adult, within the context of a progressive Jewish community, I did spend some time with Jewish women who remained affiliated with modern Orthodox communities who were intent on making change happen from within - seeking to have monthly women-only prayer services where women would be able to read from Torah, seeking an answer to the problem of agunot (women denied a religious divorce from their husbands which prevents them from remarrying), and seeking opportunities for serious Jewish study for women. I admired their patience and determination, even as I was challenging the halachic foundations upon which limits were imposed on their ability to make change.
Today is Rosh Hodesh Nisan and we are less than two weeks away from Pesach - our festival of liberation and freedom. The Exodus story begins with brave women who worked within the system to transform it - Yocheved, mother of Moses, and his sister, Miriam, and Shifrah and Puah, the midwives who disobeyed Pharaoh's command to kill all the Jewish baby boys. In their honor and memory, I share two youtube videos below that highlight the wisdom, determination, and bravery of women who today are helping to transform modern Orthodox Judaism from within.
First, a follow-up on the series of blogs we posted in December, in solidarity with Women of the Wall. Over 100 women and 50 men were at their Rosh Hodesh morning service at the Western Wall this morning. More and more Israelis are joining them each month. This month they sang, and even danced in the women's section before, as is necessary under the current Israeli Supreme Court ruling, they moved on to Robinson's Arch for their Torah service. Ultra-Orthodox men continue to shout abuse from the men's side of the mechitza, and this time chairs were thrown, as evidenced in this clip. Thankfully, no-one was hurt, and police did intervene to remove the men responsible for the violence.
Second, Sara Hurwitz speaks at the Jewish Orthodox Feminist Alliance Conference (JOFA) in New York City. Sara has been the focus of much ire in the Orthodox community, along with Rabbi Avi Weiss of Yeshivat Chovevei Torah and the Hebrew Institute of Riverdale, NY, when he gave her the title 'Rabba' to replace the previous title, 'Maharat', which had been an indication of Sara's completion of the same course of study undertaken by Rabbis, and her position as a member of the clergy team at the Hebrew Institute. Due to an inordinate amount of pressure and protest from some Orthodox bodies, the 'Rabba' title has been retracted. But Sara Hurwitz remains on the clergy team and, as you will see from this edited video of her presentation at the conference, she continues to inspire and present herself with great dignity, and continued optimism for the future of women's learning and leadership within the Orthodox Jewish community.
Yasher Kochech! - May you have strength!
Rabbi Rachel Gurevitz
Thursday, January 7, 2010
Video - Anat Hoffman interviewed about her arrest by JTA news
I wanted to share this additional piece after last night's blog, which was brought to my attention via a tweet from @religion_state who provide a really invaluable resource on all Religion-State issues in Israel via their blog (which I have now added to our blogroll on the list in the right column).
JTA news posted a video interview with Anat Hoffman after her arrest. Please take a look at it here:
What can you do? Call to Action from Women of the Wall
Batya Betsy Kallus sent a message to the members of Women of the Wall Nashot HaKotel. (You can join this group on Facebook for continued updates)
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Subject: Protest letter following interrogration of WOW chairperson Anat Hoffman: circulate and send onl
Dear Facebook supporters of WOW,
As you can see from the posting to the site today, Anat Hoffman, the chairperson of WOW was detained and interrogated today, and threatened with a felony offence for praying with a tallit at the Kotel. This appalling and disgraceful action must be protested in every possible way. Thanks to International Committee of WOW member Shulamit Magnus, below is a draft protest letter that can be sent to ambassadors, diplomats, politicians, etc. Please feel free to amend, revise, and change but please send it onward to whomever you think should receive it, and please, send a copy to the Facebook page or to info@womenofthewall.org.il
Thank you for your support and commitment to the right of Jewish women to pray at the Kotel in our own voices.
Sincerely,
Batya Kallus
Women of the Wall
This particular letter was written to Michael Oren, Israel's ambassador to USA.
To: info@washington.http://www.facebook.com/l/e711e;mfa.gov.il; dpaofficer@washington.http://www.facebook.com/l/e711e;mfa.gov.il
Subject: For Ambassador Oren URGENT
Dear Ambassador Oren,
I read with shock and disbelief that Anat Hoffman, a founding member of the
Women of the Wall, past member of the Jerusalem City Council and participant in many efforts to improve civil and consumers' rights in Israel, was detained by the Jerusalem police, interrogated, finger-printed, and threatened with prosecution for felony for her leadership role in the Women of the Wall.
This is a terribly shocking new chapter in the sad history of this affair.
At stake is Israel's very character as a democratic state that respects
human rights, including freedom of expression and worship, and abjures
discrimination on the basis of gender in its founding Declaration of
Independence. The State and Municipality of Jerusalem have proceeded down a very ominous, regrettable path in this gratuitous escalation, which if
allowed to proceed, will do terrible damage to the fabric of Israeli
democracy and to its reputation abroad.
The Women of the Wall are an independent group of religious women from all
walks of Jewish life who seek the opportunity of women's group prayer at the
Western Wall, with talit and sefer torah; that is, Jewish prayer, as is
practiced day and night at that site, 24/7.
Can anyone in their right mind begin to comprehend why pursuit of these
goals would constitute a FELONY? Have the Municipality of Jerusalem and the State of Israel no more important issues to pursue than the suppression of this group; no more dangerous individuals to pursue than a group of mothers and grandmothers seeking to pray at Judaism's holiest site? Are women at prayer to be prosecuted as felons while thugs who attack them physically and verbally, including with threats of violence and antisemitic defamation, to be coddled; the holiest site to all Jews left to their vigilante actions?
We ask you to convey to the Government of Israel our strongest protest against these absurd and dangerous actions.
Yours truly,
JTA news posted a video interview with Anat Hoffman after her arrest. Please take a look at it here:
What can you do? Call to Action from Women of the Wall
Batya Betsy Kallus sent a message to the members of Women of the Wall Nashot HaKotel. (You can join this group on Facebook for continued updates)
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Subject: Protest letter following interrogration of WOW chairperson Anat Hoffman: circulate and send onl
Dear Facebook supporters of WOW,
As you can see from the posting to the site today, Anat Hoffman, the chairperson of WOW was detained and interrogated today, and threatened with a felony offence for praying with a tallit at the Kotel. This appalling and disgraceful action must be protested in every possible way. Thanks to International Committee of WOW member Shulamit Magnus, below is a draft protest letter that can be sent to ambassadors, diplomats, politicians, etc. Please feel free to amend, revise, and change but please send it onward to whomever you think should receive it, and please, send a copy to the Facebook page or to info@womenofthewall.org.il
Thank you for your support and commitment to the right of Jewish women to pray at the Kotel in our own voices.
Sincerely,
Batya Kallus
Women of the Wall
This particular letter was written to Michael Oren, Israel's ambassador to USA.
To: info@washington.http://www.facebook.com/l/e711e;mfa.gov.il; dpaofficer@washington.http://www.facebook.com/l/e711e;mfa.gov.il
Subject: For Ambassador Oren URGENT
Dear Ambassador Oren,
I read with shock and disbelief that Anat Hoffman, a founding member of the
Women of the Wall, past member of the Jerusalem City Council and participant in many efforts to improve civil and consumers' rights in Israel, was detained by the Jerusalem police, interrogated, finger-printed, and threatened with prosecution for felony for her leadership role in the Women of the Wall.
This is a terribly shocking new chapter in the sad history of this affair.
At stake is Israel's very character as a democratic state that respects
human rights, including freedom of expression and worship, and abjures
discrimination on the basis of gender in its founding Declaration of
Independence. The State and Municipality of Jerusalem have proceeded down a very ominous, regrettable path in this gratuitous escalation, which if
allowed to proceed, will do terrible damage to the fabric of Israeli
democracy and to its reputation abroad.
The Women of the Wall are an independent group of religious women from all
walks of Jewish life who seek the opportunity of women's group prayer at the
Western Wall, with talit and sefer torah; that is, Jewish prayer, as is
practiced day and night at that site, 24/7.
Can anyone in their right mind begin to comprehend why pursuit of these
goals would constitute a FELONY? Have the Municipality of Jerusalem and the State of Israel no more important issues to pursue than the suppression of this group; no more dangerous individuals to pursue than a group of mothers and grandmothers seeking to pray at Judaism's holiest site? Are women at prayer to be prosecuted as felons while thugs who attack them physically and verbally, including with threats of violence and antisemitic defamation, to be coddled; the holiest site to all Jews left to their vigilante actions?
We ask you to convey to the Government of Israel our strongest protest against these absurd and dangerous actions.
Yours truly,
Wednesday, January 6, 2010
Women of the Wall update - Anat Hoffman interrogated by police
It was reported today in The Forward that Anat Hoffman, founding member of Women of the Wall and Director of the Israel Religious Action Center, was interrogated by police in relation to the group's prayer gathering at the Kotel in December for Rosh Chodesh Tevet, the month after Nofrat Frankel had been arrested at the wall. The article begins:
The leader of Women of the Wall, a group of women who gather monthly to pray at Jerusalem’s Western Wall, was questioned by police, fingerprinted, and told that she may be charged with a felony for violating the rules of conduct at what is considered Judaism’s most sacred site.
Inked: On January 5, Israeli police interrogated and fingerprinted Anat Hoffman.
Anat Hoffman, director of the Israel Religious Action Center, said that police interrogated her for more than an hour on January 5 about her activities during Women of the Wall’s last monthly service in December. Speaking by phone from Jerusalem, Hoffman said she did nothing differently that day than she had for the 21 years of her group’s existence... (continue reading here)
Apparently the crime being investigated was the wearing of tallitot by some women while praying (something which some women do beneath their jackets in a way that is not visible to others). When the Supreme Court ruled a number of years ago that Women of the Wall must move to Robinson's Arch for their Torah service each Rosh Chodesh, they also ruled that women could not been seen wearing tallitot at the Kotel.
This police action is outrageous and quite clearly intended to intimidate the leadership of Women of the Wall. After the arrest of Nofrat Frankel there were calls for events around the world to demonstrate Jews standing in solidarity with Women of the Wall. At B'nai Israel our Rosh Chodesh group responded with and evening of study which led to 8 blogs in solidarity with Women of the Wall, published here at the end of December.
In light of this ongoing intimidation, we must voice our disgust at the treatment of these women and call for action to be taken to ensure that the Kotel - a holy site and heritage for all Jews - does not continue to be controlled in its use as an ultra-Orthodox synagogue.
Rabbi Rachel Gurevitz
Sunday, December 27, 2009
Prayer by a Jewish Woman: In solidarity with Women of the Wall
Tonight, our last blog in solidarity with Women of the Wall is a prayer, written by Becca, created last week at our Rosh Hodesh group program.
Dear God,
I am a Jew and I celebrate my life as a Jew.
Dear God,
I am a woman and I celebrate the joy of being a woman,
and dear God,
I am both Jewish and a woman and can only imagine embracing both passionately.
I want to draw closer to You, to learn more about how to learn Your truths, Your love, Your trust in the people of this world. I want to understand more and cannot get enough of Your Presence.
Dear God,
I am a Jew and a woman and I want all of that, and I celebrate becoming that Jewish woman, growing and blossoming in Your love.
I am thrilled to know that I, and my Christian male bell choir director, and my Conservative daughter, and my atheist son, and all the other people who I have not yet met - that we are all loved by You.
And I sing Hallelujah!
Dear God,
I am a Jew and I celebrate my life as a Jew.
Dear God,
I am a woman and I celebrate the joy of being a woman,
and dear God,
I am both Jewish and a woman and can only imagine embracing both passionately.
I want to draw closer to You, to learn more about how to learn Your truths, Your love, Your trust in the people of this world. I want to understand more and cannot get enough of Your Presence.
Dear God,
I am a Jew and a woman and I want all of that, and I celebrate becoming that Jewish woman, growing and blossoming in Your love.
I am thrilled to know that I, and my Christian male bell choir director, and my Conservative daughter, and my atheist son, and all the other people who I have not yet met - that we are all loved by You.
And I sing Hallelujah!
Saturday, December 26, 2009
My Bat Mitzvah Miracle: In solidarity with Women of the Wall
Tonight's blog, in solidarity with Women of the Wall, is written by Barbara Levine:
Most of my life I was religiously non-observant. Born Jewish, growing up in Brooklyn NY ,
I was connected Jewishly in my heart, but not ritualistically. After marriage and children, we moved to Connecticut and
eventually joined B’nai Israel. I almost never went to services – not even on
the High Holy days. My children grew up at B’nai Israel since we wanted them to
have the Jewish education I never had. Each had a Bar or Bat mitzvah. I was then, and
remain to this day, very spiritual in my
outlook.
After Rabbi Prosnit became our Rabbi, I began to study with
him and questioned ‘why should I be Jewish’ as a faith. I already believed strongly in God and
prayer. But I hadn’t felt a comfortable fit within any worship community. I felt challenged by Rabbi and committed
myself to attend Friday night services every week for a year, no matter what.
I remember feeling uncomfortable and afraid, thinking people
would notice and question, ‘why is this woman coming here all of a
sudden?’ I thought they knew each other and would see me as the outsider – the
interloper. Instead, after less than a
month, I realized that I was
a regular and loved services. The clergy
and others saw me as one who could be counted on to be there. For over 10 years morning or evening I rarely
missed a service or weekly torah study. I belonged and people knew me. It was a good fit!
After much time and study, I decided I would attempt to have
a Bat Mitzvah. Cantor Gilbert believed I
could do it even though my paralyzed vocal cord inhibits my ability to speak
loudly, much less chant. My portion in
Vayetze – Jacob’s dream meant a lot to me.
Before the Friday evening group Bat Mitzvah service, I went
to the local mikvah for the ritual of purification by immersion in water. I had
wondered what the mikvah experience felt like.
This was a perfect time to do it. Basya, a very pregnant busy mother with many
children, was the mikvah attendant. I
was overwhelmed (in a good way) by the loving, caring attention I received from
her. We spoke about my expecting a miracle that my paralyzed vocal cord would
be healed, in front of the congregation, when I got to chant my Torah portion. I
believed God might heal my voice from
weak and gravelly to strong and melodic thus inspiring whoever was there. She disavowed me of that belief in a very
loving way and showed me that just because I
thought God would want to use me for a miracle, that might not be God’s
plan. Her words of wisdom astounded me.
The Bat Mitzvah was wonderful and many of my loved ones –
family and friends were there. My voice
remained the same. But I was overjoyed
and uplifted, not disappointed. Over
time I recognized the many real blessings I received. I had my miracle.
Later, I wrote about the mikvah experience and my Bat mitzvah
for the Jewish Ledger and Reform Judaism magazine. Still later (perhaps 2 or 3 years on), I was
at a lecture sponsored by Ahavas Achim (the local Orthodox synagogue). I got to talk with the guest speaker and
somehow she heard that I had written the article about the mikvah
experience. I was really surprised she
was so excited to meet me. She then
shared that she and others had read my article about the kindness and wisdom of
the mikvah attendant and the Many Blessings of my experience. She used my article to convince many
Orthodox, and other women, to go to the mikvah.
And she thanked me!
Friday, December 25, 2009
The power of inclusion & exclusion: in solidarity with Women of the Wall
Part of a solidarity blog series for Women of the Wall. Each piece is written by a member of the Rosh Hodesh group of Congregation B'nai Israel. Tonight's blog is by Heidi Gassel.
My first memories of Temple
are sitting high in a balcony with other children and women during Purim. I
remember being sad that I couldn't be with my daddy who was sitting below with
all of the other men. I looked at my bright polka dotted grogger but it just
wasn't fun. Even though I was just three years old, I still remember crying
"Dada" and my mother comforting me. My father died unexpectedly of
pneumonia just five months later.
My mother continued to bring all four of us to the orthodox
synagogue. She made sure that her three daughters and son were involved in the
Orthodox Synagogue and part of the community. She encouraged my then teenaged
sisters to be active in the youth group and they ran for office. My sisters ran
for Treasurer and Secretary and won. Even though they were active in their
jobs, they still had to sit up away from the men. I continued to ask why we
were not allowed to sit on the main floor. I remember feeling left out and not
as important as the men.
One night, after a youth group meeting my mother noticed
that some teenaged boys from New Haven
were about to head home during a giant snowstorm. We lived near Mystic, CT and
this is not a short ride especially for an inexperienced driver. My mother insisted
that the boys stay with us where they could be safe - she probably saved their
lives. The boys had guitars, sat by the fire and had a sing a-long with all of
us. I was only four but I remember feeling very spiritual about the jewish
melodies they sang.
The boys slept downstairs, the girls slept upstairs; it was
very innocent. The snow was cleared by the morning and the boys got home safe
and sound. Shortly after, my mother got a call from the Synagogue. She was
called a brazen hussy, she was told she was no longer welcomed in the orthodox
synagogue and that her daughters were no longer elected officials for the youth
group. My sisters were devastated.
I didn't know about this until some years later when my
sister Michele, alav hashalom (may she rest in peace), was on her death bed. She told me the entire story,
from her perspective. We had just had an argument about organized religion. I
then realized that the day the orthodox community denounced her and our family,
was the very day that she no longer wanted to practice Judaism. That was the
day the jewish community lost my sister. Two very strong, smart and spiritual
jewish people were lost due to such sexist standards and that's really a shame.
My siblings are much older than I am. My mother joined a
Conservative temple. I was happy sitting with everyone else. A year later, a
reformed temple opened up in Groton .
It was at the Reform temple that I felt connected for the very first time.
The Rabbi was young and funny. I remember waiting for each of his sermons...I
remember sitting on the edge of my seat and then falling off in laughter as he
performed puppet shows. His sermons challenged me, provoking thought...I was
only six or seven years old! The cantor played guitar, it was wonderful.
We stayed with this Temple
till I was 12. We were very poor in a rather wealthy community. I found
acceptance from the Rabbi. One day he announced that he was moving away. I
remember crying. One day, shortly after he had gone I was attending hebrew
school. My teacher was female and a mother of one of the other children. She
made a callous comment about my clothing and snickered at the fact that I wore
the same clothing last week. We didn't have money for a big wardrobe and it was
bad enough that I got these comments at public school but to receive it from a
grown woman from our congregation...was humiliating.
I told my mother I wasn't going back. And I didn't. I was
not to be Bat Mitzvah-ed. I would not be wearing the tallit. I remember seeing
my brother's Tallit and Tefillin when he was Bar Mitzvah-ed in the conservative
temple. The Tallit was passed down to him. It was my understanding that I would
not get to wear a Tallit in the conservative temple; my brother told me how
special the tefillin was and told me not to touch it.
When I was 18, I moved to Chicago on my own. I did not know a soul
there. I was lonely and yet one Friday night I walked into a synagogue. I
didn't know anything about the synagogue but I just walked in. And, I was home.
The music was universal...it didn't matter what sex I was...it didn't matter
what denomination it was. I was home when I was there. I would go from
synagogue to synagogue. And I always felt like I was home when I heard the
music.
I met my soulmate a few months after moving to Chicago . One day I was
talking to his niece. She told me of her Rabbi and how he inspired her. She
told me he was funny and thought provoking all at once. As I was about to tell
her that he sounded like my childhood Rabbi the words "Rabbi Knobel"
flowed out of both of our mouths simultaneously! Over a thousand miles away,
and there he was...my childhood rabbi!
I went back to hebrew school and started to learn again.
Unfortunately I had just joined a touring post alternative band and wasn't able
to continue. I do plan on going back someday. I do want to read Torah and I do
want to wear the Tallit. I feel fortunate to be in a day and age when I will
have the opportunity to wear a Tallit and that our daughter will be able to as
well. I have seen many beautiful tallitot and admire the art.
Rabbi Peter Knobel and Cantor Jeff Klepper,1983
In 1997, Rabbi Knobel married us and Cantor Klepper played
melodic guitar at our wedding. It was the same music I remembered from
childhood. My very favorite memory of our wedding is when the Rabbi wrapped the
tallit around me and my bashert. We were soul-mates, foreheads touching,
wrapped in beautiful judaic culture, wrapped in history, wrapped in a tallit I
felt safe and at one with my bashert. It is a beautiful memory.
It wasn't until we had our daughter that I realized some
things about being a Jewish girl in 1960's America . We had a really nice
naming for Madison Michele who is named after my late sister. But I found out
that in the 50's and 60's when my sisters and I were born, just my father went
to the synagogue to name us. It's kind of sad to think of the birth of a
daughter as being less significant than the birth of a son. I'm happy to be a
part of a community where I can sit where I want, wear what I want, and to be a
mother who can tell her children that we all have these opportunities. Our
daughter and son can sit with us and wear what they want and enjoy the
sermons and music of a male Rabbi, a female Rabbi and a female Cantor.
Thursday, December 24, 2009
Touching the Torah: In solidarity with Women of the Wall
Part of a solidarity blog series for Women of the Wall. Each piece is written by a member of the Rosh Hodesh group of Congregation B'nai Israel. Tonight, Beth Lazar reflects on meaningful moments drawing close to the Torah.
My cousins are Reconstructionist Jews and I went to services with them. They sang some of the same tunes that we sing at B'nai Israel and they also have a Saturday morning Torah study group that meets before Saturday morning services, to study and discuss the portion of the week. I felt very at home at my cousins' temple.
My cousin also took me to a gathering of Conservative and Orthodox Jews who rented space to have Shabbat and Festival services. We went to pray with them for a Passover Shabbat service. The leaders of the service noticed that I was a new face, and asked me to dress the Torah after the reading.
I have a T-shirt with a picture of women dancing with the Torah at the Western Wall. It is my hope that someday that drawing become a reality. And all Jews can pray together here in the USA, and Israel.
My cousins are Reconstructionist Jews and I went to services with them. They sang some of the same tunes that we sing at B'nai Israel and they also have a Saturday morning Torah study group that meets before Saturday morning services, to study and discuss the portion of the week. I felt very at home at my cousins' temple.
My cousin also took me to a gathering of Conservative and Orthodox Jews who rented space to have Shabbat and Festival services. We went to pray with them for a Passover Shabbat service. The leaders of the service noticed that I was a new face, and asked me to dress the Torah after the reading.
I have a T-shirt with a picture of women dancing with the Torah at the Western Wall. It is my hope that someday that drawing become a reality. And all Jews can pray together here in the USA, and Israel.
Wednesday, December 23, 2009
My First Tallit: In solidarity with Women of the Wall
Part of a solidarity blog series for Women of the Wall. Each piece is written by a member of the Rosh Hodesh group of Congregation B'nai Israel. Tonight, Rabbi Gurevitz shares a reflection:
I grew up in an Orthodox synagogue. As a young teen, I watched the boys in front of the mechitzah with envy. I wanted to be fluent in reciting prayers that no-one ever taught me. I wanted to wrap myself in a tallit and cover my head to have intimate conversations with God. I was not permitted to partake, and so I chatted with friends, I yawned, I ignored the hushes when our voices rose too much - what did they care? Our voices didn't count anyway.
Fast-forward 13 years. In adult bat-mitzvah classes with a woman rabbi. We studied texts and made tzitzit. We talked about wrapping ourselves with the presence of the Shechinah. We talk about the tzitzit connecting us to the covenant and our heritage. Our heritage. I am invited to reclaim my heritage.
In an ethnic arts and crafts store in Swansea, Wales. Hanging on the wall - a large cloth, banded with stripes, like a Tallit. But these bands are fire orange and black. And, at the boundaries of the fire and the black, the colors merge - not hard, firm boundaries, but blurred, permeable boundaries. This is my tallit - my first tallit.
It transforms my prayer and, soon, it will transform my life.
I grew up in an Orthodox synagogue. As a young teen, I watched the boys in front of the mechitzah with envy. I wanted to be fluent in reciting prayers that no-one ever taught me. I wanted to wrap myself in a tallit and cover my head to have intimate conversations with God. I was not permitted to partake, and so I chatted with friends, I yawned, I ignored the hushes when our voices rose too much - what did they care? Our voices didn't count anyway.
Fast-forward 13 years. In adult bat-mitzvah classes with a woman rabbi. We studied texts and made tzitzit. We talked about wrapping ourselves with the presence of the Shechinah. We talk about the tzitzit connecting us to the covenant and our heritage. Our heritage. I am invited to reclaim my heritage.
In an ethnic arts and crafts store in Swansea, Wales. Hanging on the wall - a large cloth, banded with stripes, like a Tallit. But these bands are fire orange and black. And, at the boundaries of the fire and the black, the colors merge - not hard, firm boundaries, but blurred, permeable boundaries. This is my tallit - my first tallit.
It transforms my prayer and, soon, it will transform my life.
Tuesday, December 22, 2009
To be Holy in the sight of God: In solidarity with Women of the Wall
Part of a solidarity blog series for Women of the Wall. Each piece is written by a member of the Rosh Hodesh group of Congregation B'nai Israel. Tonight's blog is written by Marjorie Freeman, who grew up in a Reform congregation.
As a school girl, I attended - participated in - services every Saturday morning. All the adult women wore hats, the men were bare-headed, in order to show respect. I studied Jewish history, the holidays, ethical teachings, and the bible - with more intensity each year.
In my senior year of High School, our class read key portions of the Torah each week, coming together ready to present our own view of the meanings. After heated discussions, our teacher present the 'official' Reform interpretation, which we sometimes respectfully disagreed with. But isn't that the Jewish way?
At the end of the year, four of us, two girls and two boys, were chosen to give 'sermonettes' the Friday evening of our graduation ceremony. It was such an honor to be chosen, but also so scary! What topic to choose, how to write something worthy of the congregation and the rabbi's attention? How to stand up in front of so many people and speak the words?
Never once did it occur to me to question why two boys and two girls. We were the top students in the class; it was obvious why we were chosen. Yet this was 1962 - none of us had ever heard of a bat mitzvah, let alone a woman rabbi.
My sermonette was on the first commandment - everything follows from 'I am the Lord your God.' All the other commandments, all the ways of righteousness, of helping others, of doing good. "I am the Lord Your God, who brought you out of the land of Egypt, out of the house of bondage.'
Now it is for us to do the same for each other, and to worship God together and to be Holy in the sight of our God.
As a school girl, I attended - participated in - services every Saturday morning. All the adult women wore hats, the men were bare-headed, in order to show respect. I studied Jewish history, the holidays, ethical teachings, and the bible - with more intensity each year.
In my senior year of High School, our class read key portions of the Torah each week, coming together ready to present our own view of the meanings. After heated discussions, our teacher present the 'official' Reform interpretation, which we sometimes respectfully disagreed with. But isn't that the Jewish way?
At the end of the year, four of us, two girls and two boys, were chosen to give 'sermonettes' the Friday evening of our graduation ceremony. It was such an honor to be chosen, but also so scary! What topic to choose, how to write something worthy of the congregation and the rabbi's attention? How to stand up in front of so many people and speak the words?
Never once did it occur to me to question why two boys and two girls. We were the top students in the class; it was obvious why we were chosen. Yet this was 1962 - none of us had ever heard of a bat mitzvah, let alone a woman rabbi.
My sermonette was on the first commandment - everything follows from 'I am the Lord your God.' All the other commandments, all the ways of righteousness, of helping others, of doing good. "I am the Lord Your God, who brought you out of the land of Egypt, out of the house of bondage.'
Now it is for us to do the same for each other, and to worship God together and to be Holy in the sight of our God.
Monday, December 21, 2009
My first experience at the Kotel: In solidarity with Women of the Wall
Part of a solidarity blog series for Women of the Wall. Each piece is written by a member of the Rosh Hodesh group of Congregation B'nai Israel.
My first experience seeing the Kotel was after sundown on a Yom Kippur. We were on our way to a Break Fast with a very close friend from home - a kid I grew up with who was like a brother. I was to have been visiting and traveling with him but, after making Aliyah, he went into the army. So when I arrived I went to his apartment and was staying with his roommates.
He came home for the holiday and we went to his friends for Yom Kippur. Of course, I didn't even get to sit with him in Shul either. So after sundown we went to Yerushalayim and the Old City before joining other friends to eat. I actually was on the rooftops looking down, and then we went into the plaza of the Kotel. I'm glad I was with 'family', even though he didn't come in the women's side, but was waiting when I was finished.
Yom Kippur services, Yizkor (memorial), my prayers, and the notes at the wall, and being with a person who is family, was the perfect first time to have this incredible, moving experience. It was still early, and the Kotel was quiet and still, and fairly empty.
Sunday, December 20, 2009
To Pray in a Tallit. In Solidarity with Women of the Wall
Part of a solidarity blog series for Women of the Wall. Each piece is written by a member of the Rosh Hodesh group of Congregation B'nai Israel.
Wrapped in the 'arms' of God
Embraced in love and intimacy ...
Easing into the secure comfort
I am free to pray with all my heart ...
God's voice pours out of me
as I feel the Breath fill my body ...
Sometimes there are tears of joy or sadness
But always there is a feeling of 'coming home.'
One of the most powerful times of prayer was in the beautiful space of a chapel at a Christian Retreat Center. This was clearly a sacred place. God was in this place and, yes, I did know it. Freedom to be who I am, a Jewish woman of faith ... welcoming sisters.
How ironic that Jewish women do not have that freedom to pray so safely in 'our homeland', at one of the most sacred sites of the Jewish people. How sad to realize that 'my people' would not honor my right to pray, abuse me and treat me as less than human. Maybe they are not 'my people'. Does God listen to and answer their prayers?
Wrapped in the 'arms' of God
Embraced in love and intimacy ...
Easing into the secure comfort
I am free to pray with all my heart ...
God's voice pours out of me
as I feel the Breath fill my body ...
Sometimes there are tears of joy or sadness
But always there is a feeling of 'coming home.'
One of the most powerful times of prayer was in the beautiful space of a chapel at a Christian Retreat Center. This was clearly a sacred place. God was in this place and, yes, I did know it. Freedom to be who I am, a Jewish woman of faith ... welcoming sisters.
How ironic that Jewish women do not have that freedom to pray so safely in 'our homeland', at one of the most sacred sites of the Jewish people. How sad to realize that 'my people' would not honor my right to pray, abuse me and treat me as less than human. Maybe they are not 'my people'. Does God listen to and answer their prayers?
Praying with Women of the Wall, Rosh Hodesh Tevet, Dec 18, 2009
Lisa Grant is a member of Congregation B'nai Israel, and Associate Professor of Education at Hebrew Union College, New York. Lisa is currently in Israel and, after seeing last night's blog entry dedicating the coming week to solidarity blogs with Women of the Wall, she sent me this eye-witness report of being one of the women praying this Rosh Hodesh, on Friday morning at the Kotel.
I arrived in Israel on Thursday night and woke up early Friday morning to attend Rosh Chodesh Tevet services with the Women at the Wall. In the pouring rain, we were well over 100 strong, with women of all ages, students, mothers, grandmothers. We gathered at the back of the Women's section at the Kotel, clustered tightly under umbrellas and joined together in prayer surrounded by a chorus of voices shouting out bitter epithets ranging from the rather mild "Shame" and "scum" to the more shocking "Die" and "You're the reason why the Intifada happened." We were not deterred by either weather or curses and managed to raise our voices together in prayer. There were a number of police in our midst, who mainly kept telling us to keep our tallitot under our coats. When we finished Hallel, we began a slow walk out of the Ezrat Nashim towards Robinson's Arch for the Torah service. On the way, we sang songs of faith and strength in support of our right to freely express ourselves as Jews in the Jewish state. We were joined by a couple dozen men who walked with us in solidarity. Other men continued to shout at us and spit on us while the police looked on.
Associate Professor of Jewish Education
Hebrew Union College - New York
I arrived in Israel on Thursday night and woke up early Friday morning to attend Rosh Chodesh Tevet services with the Women at the Wall. In the pouring rain, we were well over 100 strong, with women of all ages, students, mothers, grandmothers. We gathered at the back of the Women's section at the Kotel, clustered tightly under umbrellas and joined together in prayer surrounded by a chorus of voices shouting out bitter epithets ranging from the rather mild "Shame" and "scum" to the more shocking "Die" and "You're the reason why the Intifada happened." We were not deterred by either weather or curses and managed to raise our voices together in prayer. There were a number of police in our midst, who mainly kept telling us to keep our tallitot under our coats. When we finished Hallel, we began a slow walk out of the Ezrat Nashim towards Robinson's Arch for the Torah service. On the way, we sang songs of faith and strength in support of our right to freely express ourselves as Jews in the Jewish state. We were joined by a couple dozen men who walked with us in solidarity. Other men continued to shout at us and spit on us while the police looked on.
I shared my umbrella with two young women who kept saying "this is so sad. It just makes me want to cry." A sad statement indeed, that there were men (and some women) who found it more important to throw insults and slurs our way than to direct their hearts into their own prayer. On this 7th day of Hanukkah we sang out for religious freedom and the right to pray peacefully and respectfully in this most holy of sites that belongs to the entire Jewish people.
Lisa D. GrantAssociate Professor of Jewish Education
Hebrew Union College - New York
Saturday, December 19, 2009
A week of blogging in solidarity with Women of the Wall
In the coming week there will be a new blog each evening from a member of the Rosh Hodesh group of B'nai Israel. Last night, at our Rosh Hodesh program, some women wrote a response to the recent arrest of Nofrat Frankel last month at the Rosh Chodesh Shacharit service of Women of the Wall. Each woman was asked to reflect on a range of experiences: the experience of being at the Kotel, the experience of praying in a tallit, or a time in their lives when they were aware of their inclusion or exclusion from Jewish community as a woman. Each woman shared something personal, spiritual and deeply moving. Below is the sermon, delivered on Shabbat, December 18, dedicated to standing in solidarity with Women of the Wall this Rosh Hodesh Tevet. Please visit us each night to read another solidarity blog.
Rabbi Rachel Gurevitz
Rabbi Rachel Gurevitz
Standing in
Solidarity with Women of the Wall
Last week, a call went out Israel ,
the USA , and Europe , to make yesterday, Rosh Chodesh, Tevet, a day of
solidarity at venues around the world in support of the right of women to pray
at the Western Wall in "dignity, in safety and in shared
community." Why did such a call go
out, and what was the response?
First, a little history, courtesy of Phyllis Chesler, an
American, Jewish feminist: 21 years ago
for the first time in history, 70 Jewish women prayed together out loud as a
group at the Western Wall (or "Kotel") in Jerusalem . Women have always prayed at the
Kotel, often silently, and alone. What made this service radically different,
certainly transcendent, was that we not only prayed aloud but we also chanted
from the Torah. The group consisted of
women of every Jewish denomination, but many of the founding leaders were
Orthodox women – educated Orthodox women, and the group’s way of praying,
including their Torah reading among a group of women only, was then, and has
remained, entirely within the remit of halachah – Jewish law.
Phyllis Chesler, describing that first time, tells us: Some of us donned tallesim (prayer shawls) and head
coverings, many of us did not. We were radiant, overwhelmed, humbled, united. However, once the
ultra-orthodox men and women understood that Jewish women were chanting from a
Torah, they began hurling unholy and terrifying curses at us which fouled the
very air. Threats of physical violence quickly followed. We made it out safely:
this time, the first time.
As the group
continued to meet, early morning, once a month, every month, at Rosh Chodesh,
the response of the ultra-orthodox who have claimed the Wall as their own,
personal synagogue, became increasingly violent. Metal chairs were thrown over the mechitza at
the women, curses were shouted out.
Women of the Wall, as they called themselves, decided to go to the
Israeli Supreme Court, asking for permission to conduct their women-only
service, on the women’s side of the mechitza, and read from the Torah, for 11
hours a year – one hour, once a month, on Rosh Chodesh. Women around the world rallied in
support. Artists created tallitot to
help raise money for the cause (and tonight I wear the Women of the Wall
Tallit), tambourines for Women’s Seders, and much more.
Phyllis
Chesler tells us: The Israeli Supreme Court would ultimately render three
decisions. The first decision, in 1994, sent us to the Knesset where, I kid you
not, the guys tried to banish our prayer group to rubble-strewn Arab areas of Jerusalem . We returned to
court and, in 2000, rejoiced over a unanimous three judge decision in our
favor. The state immediately appealed this decision. We then faced nine judges.
In 2002, four judges were in our favor, four opposed us--and the fifth and
decisive vote against us was cast by none other than the great liberal and
humanitarian, Chief Justice Aharon Barak, a man who has been able to find
justice for Palestinian Arabs, both Christians and Jews but not for Jewish
women. This 2002 decision ordered the government to build a
prayer site for us at Robinson's Arch, which is mainly an archeological and
tourist site.
I
have attended a Rosh Chodesh service at the wall – about 5 years ago, when I
was in Israel
for a summer program. Even before we
left for Robinson’s Arch for a beautiful Torah service where a young woman had
her batmitzvah (and her grandmother came up for an aliyah for the very first
time in her life), as 70 women began to quietly sing the Hallel prayers at the
Kotel, I witnessed a bearded man stand on a chair and start hurling abuse at us
– ‘You are worse than the Christians!’
‘You are prostitutes!’ he hollered in Hebrew. Two soldiers came over to our group and told
us we had to lower our voices.
Things
have been pretty quiet for the Women of the Wall in recent months. So quiet that, last month, they wondered if
perhaps the ultra-Orthodox at the Wall had stopped paying attention. And so, when they’d reached the end of the
morning prayers without hearing any abuse, they thought they’d take out the
Torah and see if they could continue without moving to Robinson’s Arch. It became evident in moments that they could
not. As they packed up and started to
walk away from the Kotel to continue, as usual, at Robinson’s Arch, Nofrat
Frankel, an Israeli medical student and Masorti/Conservative Jew, holding the
Torah, was surrounded and taken to the on-site police station, apparently for
wearing a tallit which, they claimed, was forbidden (incidentally, halachah
states that women are not obliged to wear a tallit but absolutely does not
state that it is forbidden). She was
told that a criminal file was being opened on her, and that she was banned from
the Kotel for two weeks.
And so, once again,
women of every Jewish denomination, as well as men, are rallying to stand in
support of Women of the Wall. Last
night, we dedicated B’nai Israel’s Rosh Hodesh group program to Women of the
Wall. After studying the history, and
the recent events, each of us wrote a personal reflection that related to the
issues at hand. Tonight I want to share
just the topics. But each piece was
powerful and moving, and needs and deserves to be seen and read in its
entirety. And so, beginning Saturday
night, for 8 days, in echo of the 8 days of Chanukah that we complete tonight –
our festival that celebrates and remembers our reclaiming of our Religious
Freedoms – one of these pieces will be posted on our congregational blog, shma
koleinu (which, if you still haven’t found yet, can be easily accessed via
the link on the front page of our temple website).
There is a beautiful
piece on the experience of praying with a tallit. It begins:
Wrapped in the ‘arms’ of God, Embraced in love and
intimacy… Easing into the secure comfort, I am free to pray with all my heart…
Another woman writes of a moving experience at the Kotel on a quiet evening, on the way to break fast at the end of Yom Kippur.
Marjorie Freeman
writes of her experience, growing up in a Reform temple, with new-found
appreciation for a sense of inclusivity she felt from childhood.
Barbara Levine
reflected on her experience of an adult batmitzvah, and the powerful ritual of
mikvah that she chose to have before that special day. Highlighting the beauty of existing in a
pluralist Jewish community, she tells of the day that she met an Orthodox woman
who had been so deeply moved by the article she wrote about her mikvah
experience. So much spirituality from a
willingness for all of us to open up to the God-moments that we can find in
each others’ expressions of Judaism.
Beth Lazar writes
about visiting synagogues of different denominations in the USA , and the
bond of connecting to the Torah rituals in each one, praying that all women
everywhere will one day be able to feel that connection.
Heidi Gassel shared
some deeply moving parts of her biography, and some of the life-changing
moments of inclusion of exclusion experienced by her and members of her family
in the context of Jewish community.
Becca writes a
powerful prayer, celebrating the fullness of being Jewish and a woman, calling
on God’s presence, and singing praises to a God that embraces and loves all of
us.
And I wrote about
my first Tallit, how I came to wear one, and how it transformed my prayer and,
subsequently, transformed my life.
Nofrat Frankel, and
all the Women of the Wall, we stand with you, we rededicate ourselves to
support the cause of Women of the Wall, and we rededicate ourselves as Jewish
men and women to embrace and celebrate a pluralist Jewish community, committed
to being mindful of when we are guilty of erecting unnecessary barriers
of exclusion, wanting to see the day when all of us, every part of Klal
Yisrael, is able to explore and express our Jewish spirituality without fear.
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